Clyde Surrogacy Story | Demek

I have the BEST kind of story to share with you all. It’s about overcoming infertility and the of power social media, mixed with prayer and the good people that still exist. 

Last fall I saw a post on facebook from my friend Becky & her husband Jake. I hadn’t seen Becky in years but her story immediately brought me to tears. She was struggling with infertility and looking for a surrogate. I was 7 months pregnant at the time after a 6 year trial of secondary infertility and my heart was just breaking for what they were going through. This is what they shared as they searched;

I am a private person, and this is difficult for me to share but I am doing so because my family is dependent on it. So here goes nothing… 

We have been trying to conceive for over 5 years. I have taken every fertility drug available (even experimental ones), had multiple surgeries, have done multiple rounds of IVF, FETs, IUI- basically everything that modern medicine has to offer. I have also tried Traditional Chinese Medicine, Ayurvedic recommendations, diet and lifestyle changes, etc. all to no avail. The times that we have been able to achieve pregnancy all have ended in miscarriage which has been completely heartbreaking for us. Yet we have always continued, one treatment after another, because I know deep in my being that we were meant to be parents and I feel a pull to continue on this path. 

It has become evident (and our doctor has advised us) that the likelihood of me carrying a baby is slim to none and the best chances of us having a healthy baby are to use a gestational carrier (surrogate), which is why I am writing this post. I am hoping that someone will see this post and perhaps be called upon or know someone who may do this for us. I am available to talk with anyone about the process. A gestational carrier does not have any genetic ties to the baby, just more of a “40-week babysitter” 😊 The State of Michigan makes it illegal to pay anyone for this, and it would be something that would be impossible to repay someone for anyways. That person would forever have a special place in our heart. Feel free to like and share this post, I hope that a lot of people see it. Love and God Bless.

I thought about Becky and Jake for days, knowing just the struggle they were facing. I wanted to help, but knew there was nothing I could do for them-except maybe send their story to my best friend who was going through a different kind of struggle. 

My best friend Theresa & her husband Philip had just decided their family was complete. After 5 children all under 6 and their baby Sammy still under a year they were happy with their decision. Theresa was made to be a mom and although her heart knew she was done with babies, she had loved being pregnant. We had many tearful conversations about the sadness that comes when you know something you’ve done for so long is over. Last pregnancy test, last first flutters of movement, the kicks, rolls and movement. Watching your body do amazing things to accommodate a growing baby. It was done for Theresa & Philip. Although some people won’t understand, it was a mourning period for Theresa because she loved her pregnancies. I sent her Becky & Jake’s story and said something along the lines of ‘one last pregnancy?’ We talked about it but I never knew it went any further. She is excellent at keeping secrets.

Fast forward to early this Spring. Theresa asked me to stop over and I could tell she had something big to tell me but I had NO idea what it was. When I got there she showed me an ultrasound-but it wasn’t her baby. 

Theresa and her husband Philip had reached out to Becky and Jake & fate was on their side. They decided to move forward and here we are today. Theresa is almost half way through her pregnancy, carrying  Becky & Jake’s little girl. There is no one better for this role. Theresa has said many times that God granted her the ability to have healthy pregnancies and she wanted to use that gift to help others. She is an incredible woman with a supportive husband and I’m so happy for the match they made and the family that they are helping create for Becky and Jake.

The session tonight was much anticipated. The gender reveal! Becky let Theresa plan the surprise and the quote was perfect for the pink onesie that she had made for the reveal. “We never gave up -due- December 2019”

I am just beyond excited to be able to share this incredible story, it is hard to articulate just how much joy I have for Becky & Jake to finally become parents. Congratulations all around!